The Highest Thought is always the thought that contains joy.
The Clearest Words are those that contain truth.
The Greatest Feeling is that which you call love.

Neall Donald Walsh (Conversation with God)

Any thing, any phenomenon cannot exist without its opposite. Everything can only be known in comparison. Therefore, for love to exist, and in order to know oneself as pure love, its direct opposite must exist. Thus, the Original Creator intentionally created a great polarity at the time of the universe's inception: the direct opposite of love; everything that love is not; and what is now called... fear.

ALL HUMAN ACTIONS are motivated at a deep level by one of two feelings, one of two words in the language of the soul: fear or love. These are the opposite ends of the great polarity. These are the two points — Alpha and Omega — that allow the system we call "relativity" to exist. Without these two points, without these two ideas or feelings, no other idea or feeling could exist. Every human thought, word, or deed is based on one of these feelings. All other thoughts arise from these two. They are simply different versions, different variations on the same theme. There is no other choice, as there is nothing more to choose from. This can be called the Organizing Thought. It is either the thought of love or the thought of fear. It is the thought behind the thought behind the thought. It is the very first thought. It is the primary force. It is the fuel that allows the engine of human experience to run.

And this is how human behavior generates experience after experience. This is why people love, then destroy, then love again. There is always a fluctuation from one feeling to another. Love organizes fear. Fear organizes love. Love organizes fear again... and so on. For the first thing a person usually worries about when they say "I love you" is whether they will hear it in return. And even if they do hear it, they immediately begin to worry about losing that love they just found. Because of this, all actions become reactions, defenses against loss.

Fear is the energy that compresses, closes, withdraws, runs away, hides, accumulates, damages. Love is the energy that expands, opens, sends outward, releases, gives revelation, shares, heals. Fear wraps our bodies in clothes; love allows us to remain naked. Fear closes in and ends with what you have; love allows you to give everything you have. Fear grabs for itself; love touches gently. Fear constricts; love releases. Fear gives birth to pain; love gives birth to relief. Fear attacks; love transforms.

We have been taught to live in fear, told that the fittest survive, the strongest prevail, and the smartest succeed. Only precious nuggets have been said about the glory of those who could give love. So you strive to be the fittest, the strongest, the smartest—in one way or another—and if you see that you cannot surpass everyone in any situation, you fear losing, for you have been told that not being the best means losing. However, by choosing actions based on love, you will achieve more than survival, more than winning; you will achieve more than success. Only then will you fully feel the greatness of Who You Truly Are and who you can be.

If only we knew that we are the most magnificent, the most wonderful, the most extraordinary beings ever created by God, we would never fear. For who can reject such marvelous perfection? Even God cannot find flaws in such a being. But we do not know Who We Are and think of ourselves much less.

The goal, desire, and meaning of the human soul is to experience the highest, most perfect feeling of love that one can imagine. The soul needs feelings. The highest feeling is the experience of unity with All That Is. Therefore, the soul tries to feel everything so that it can be everything. This is the great return to the Truth that the soul longs for.

From the literature on "physics", we know that white is not the absence of color. White is the combination of all existing colors. In the same way, love is not the absence of feelings (hatred, anger, lust, jealousy, greed), but the sum of everything that can be felt. Love is the total sum of everything. The final quantity. Just everything. Therefore, for the soul to experience perfect love, it must experience every human feeling. How can one empathize with what one does not understand? How can one forgive another for what one has never experienced within oneself? How can the soul be up if it has never been down, be left if it has never been right? How can it feel warm if it has never known cold? Thus, we see both the simplicity and the astounding grandeur of the soul's journey. Finally, we understand what it needs:

The task of the soul is to make the person choose magnificence—to choose the best of Who They Are—without rejecting what they do not choose. The highest level of the soul never rejects what is not magnificent but blesses it, seeing it as part of itself that must exist for another part of it to manifest.

The religious phrase "Love others as yourself" can be interpreted in various ways. One of its meanings is to love another but not to forget about oneself. And this is a very important point. Love for oneself! Love for oneself, or rather for self-improvement, is far from selfishness. We brought our "I" into this world of relativity for many reasons, and one of them is so that we would have the tools with which we could know and experience Who We Truly Are. By perfecting ourselves, we become stronger and more perfect instruments of the Supreme Creator. Before giving our love to others and giving something away, we must first have that something.

Our personal relationship with ourselves is the most important link in the evolutionary process. In essence, they are not connected to another person, but since another is involved, they are all connected to the other. We need the other to realize ourselves. To test once more through experience whether we align with the image of ourselves as one who radiates love to others or not. Indeed, the law of consciousness development, to some extent, compels us to give. For example, by giving in terms of knowledge, we free ourselves to accept other information, refine and strengthen previous knowledge, and so on. For this, we need others to dedicate ourselves to them for our own sake. This is a divine dichotomy. This is a closed circle. So when it is said: «Blessed are those focused on Themselves, for they will know the One» — this is not such a radical statement. To know the highest part of your "I" and to remain focused on it—is that a bad goal for our lives?

What does it mean to be focused on oneself? To look every moment at who You are, what you do, what you have, rather than what is happening to another. It is not in the actions of another person, but in your own responses that a person finds their salvation. Such is the law of love: only the person who is most centered on themselves can love particularly well.

Therefore, first of all, we must establish a relationship with our own "I." We must learn, strangely enough, to honor, cherish, and love Ourselves. At first, we must see Ourselves as worthy, and then we will be able to see another as worthy. At first, a person must see themselves as blessed, and then they can see another as blessed. At first, a person must know themselves as holy, and then they can recognize holiness in another. If we cannot correctly love Ourselves, then we cannot truly love another correctly. Our relationships with others largely depend on how we relate to ourselves.

Many people, for example, try to find love for Themselves only through love for another. They think: "If I can love others, they will love me. I will become attractive and will be able to love myself." In doing so, their love for another often ceases to be bipolar because the person begins to fear saying the deserved "no" to another. In other words, to relate to another with love does not mean to satisfy all their desires.

Parents quickly grasp this with their children. And sometimes punishing a child greatly helps in their spiritual growth. Adults, on the other hand, do not find it so easy to understand this with other adults, just as one nation does with another. But one must not allow despots with their despotism to thrive. This is required by both love for oneself and love for the despot. Therefore, some pacifist theories that the highest love does not require a forceful response to what one considers evil can be put to rest.

Some people hate themselves because they feel that there is no other person who loves them. This is a kind of disease. People are literally "sick with love." Because in reality, other people love them. But that does not matter. No matter how many people confess their love to them, it is still not enough.

And even if a person can finally believe that others (or someone specific) love them, their subsequent reactions will likely resemble a defensive reaction against loss. For now, they are more concerned with how long they can hold onto that love. And the higher the love, the more fear they will confront. And in order to continue to possess this love coming from another person, they will begin to change their behavior in one direction or another. Thus, two people literally lose themselves in the relationship. They enter into relationships hoping to find themselves, and instead, they lose. The loss of oneself in relationships often serves as the cause of bitterness in the communication between two people.

Two become partners in the hope that the whole will be greater than the sum of the individual parts, only to find that it is less. They feel less self-sufficient than when they were alone. Less capable, less knowing, less joyful, less attractive, less happy, less satisfied.

All this is because they have indeed become such. They have largely renounced who they are to have relationships and to keep them. Relationships were never meant to be like this. But this is how more people experience them than we can imagine.

The most common reason people "fall in love" with each other is usually due to the need to satisfy needs. Everyone has needs. One person needs this, another needs that. Both partners see in each other a chance to satisfy their needs. And both silently agree to exchange. I will sell you what I have, and you will sell me what you have. A kind of barter exchange. It is a deal. An obligation! But no one admits this to themselves.

And a person often feels a direct need to receive dividends from their contribution. If they are going to love someone—great, but it would also be nice to receive no less love in return. This is nothing but expectation. And this is the greatest source of human unhappiness. This is what separates a person from God and from love. Expectation is the enemy of love.

And if both partners consciously agree that the goal of their relationship is to create a favorable opportunity, rather than an obligation—a possibility for growth, for the full expression of Self, to bring their lives to the level of their highest potential, to heal any false thought or distorted idea about themselves, and for complete merging with God through the unity of their two souls—if both partners accept this vow instead of the vows they have taken until now—then the relationship has begun on a very good note. They have started on the right foot. This is a very favorable beginning.

The Supreme loves each of us unconditionally and without ceasing. He even tries to fulfill any of our desires and requests. However, we sometimes do not even understand what we need and what we want. The desires of our subconscious are often hidden from our consciousness.

The Supreme is trying in every way to establish a connection with us in various ways. The most basic and most commonly used way is not something external, but the voice inside each of us. This is the first tool He uses, as it is the most accessible. Our inner voice is the loudest voice through which He speaks to us, as it is the closest. It is this voice that tells us how true or false, right or wrong, good or bad everything else is. This is the radar that sets the course, directs the ship, chooses the route of the journey if you allow it to do so. It is this voice that tells you right now whether the words you are reading here are words of love or words of fear. This is how you can determine whether to heed these words and advice or to ignore them. Our Creator has never stopped sending us His teachers. His true teachers teach and call us not to fear, but to love.